Parents are the ultimate guidance for children. All activities they do including eating, interacting, laughing, and walking everything they do they learn from their parents. Being always present in Infront of a child creates a bond between parents and children that grows over time. They feel safe and confident around them. Even if a child gets scared in his/her dream, the impulse of a person is to run towards safety, and children run towards their parents. They trust them to be protected by their parents. Parents always try to make a safe and comfortable environment for their kids. But sometimes, they ignore the basic elements to create such an environment and that ends up harmful for the children. We don’t say that they do such harm intentionally most of the time they are unaware of the negative effects. Below are some situations in which parents create an environment that ultimately harms their children rather than benefits them.
Parents and even who aren’t related to a child love making him/her laugh. For that, parents usually tickle their children and apparently the kids seem to laugh but we know personally when someone tickles us, we immediately want it to stop. It rather is a most approachable way to make them laugh but it’s an impulse response, when they are laughing they aren’t doing that intentionally rather they want it to stop as soon as possible. The University of California did research on that and found out that Tickled-Laughing is not actual laughing but an impulsive response and it’s totally different from a laugh created from a joke. It’s forced laughing due to the overpowering state of the parents.
2. Stuffed Toys
Everyone likes cuddly toys and due to their cuteness parents want to place them in the bed of their cute children. Stuffed toys are soft and cozy, but they possess a lot of space. Putting so many toys in a baby’s cradle or bed can crowd it and make the place more closed than spacious. Fluffy pillows also come in this category and should be avoided. These plushies are comfy but they don’t let air escape through them, and it can cause suffocation to a baby if somehow he puts it on his nose or face because we all know babies try to eat everything. People should avoid cuteness over harm.
3. Shaking Hardly
When a baby cries, parents get anxious and try to calm the baby as soon as possible. It can cause a lot of distress because a baby can’t tell what’s wrong with him. The reason for crying could be something very serious or just a little hunger. It worries parents and usually, they shake the baby and somehow baby stops crying. This becomes a routine, and they don’t realize that this is something harmful to the baby. Experts stop people to shake a baby vigorously because it can cause a serious trauma “Shaken Baby Syndrome”. Parents should avoid such things because shaking very hard is not calming them, it is making them scared.
4. Sterile Environment
Cleaning is important when dealing with children because they put everything in their mouths. There are many germs on the floor and other stuff. But some parents do it on an extreme level. It is understandable for people who have germaphobia, but some parents care too much about their children. Being in such a sterile environment obviously affects children too and they become more allergic to normal things like dust, smell, etc. So, parents should act normal in this case not too careless and not too protective.
5. Walking On Flat Surfaces
Walking babies on a flat surface doesn’t seem like much harm but babies’ muscles are fragile, and they cannot walk on such surfaces. Due to soft bones, walking on such surfaces can bend their backbone, most importantly it changes their feet muscles, and bones according to flat surfaces and later when they grow up they cannot walk on irregular surfaces.
6. Finishing Entire Meal-Forcefully
Baby’s stomachs are small, and they eat little food in short times. Sometimes, parents force their babies to eat entire meals and finish that. Children eat how much they want to eat and when forcing them to eat an entire meal can turn into a very uncomfortable situation like a power struggle. They will assume every experience with food is an unpleasant one. It will affect their health. Parents must not force them to eat more and just give them little food at small intervals.
Swansea University did research by a professor of Child Public Health, Amy Brown, on children’s behavior on spoon-feeding in which those children who did know how to hold a spoon shouldn’t require some help in eating. When spoon-feeding a child, it feels like forceful eating because it is not n control of the baby, and they end up overeating. But when they eat themselves, they enjoy food and stop when they are full on their own. It helps them to appreciate the food and leads to a healthy attitude.
8. Forceful Sharing
Sharing with parents is not easy because children are usually scared of their reactions. Parents are overprotective and they do not want their children to end up in a trouble so when they get to know that their children are doing something wrong, they try to stop it by force. On the other hand, when parents force their children to share everything with them, it can cause distrust, overwhelm, and power over children. Later when they grow up, they can be easily manipulated by people by telling them anything or doing anything. Parents should reconsider this type of parenting style.
9. Keeping Extremely Polite
Forcing anything on children ends up in a harmful situation for them, it does not show signs at an early stage but later when they grow up, it can cause serious troubles and instability in their behaviors. Children make noise even in front of strangers and parents always forbid them to do that. This ends up in an extreme situation where parents try to keep their children polite in every situation and they feel like they should abide by that and be polite and affirmative in front of strangers too. This sometimes ends up in abduction. Parents should teach their kids when to be polite and when to speak or scream if necessary. This article shows those situations that are experimentally observed and also experts affirm it. Parents should keep these things in mind because children are fragile, and they need their parent’s attention more than anybody else’s.